When my mom stayed with us

Subject: When my mom stayed with us

mikeymk 24.11.21 - 05:04pm
I hate all things like this, giving or taking, it's just so awkward and i'd rather not be judged on how i handle these situations. * +

nikkei 24.11.21 - 09:07pm
If it makes you comfortable then pay her back. * +

sisfreak2017 25.11.21 - 03:11am
Give it to me, I'll take Crail out for a romantic meal.(fairy) * +

xivanax 25.11.21 - 06:52am
I know my mum would of laid her life on the line for any of us kids. Which in the end she did.

I would be showering her with gifts and all sorts if she was here today as i know she had a hard hard life growing up.

Treat her like the queen that she is.

If you feel obliged to pay her back but she wont accept it pay her back in a different way. Take her on holiday. Or treat her to see a long lost relative. Or a fancy tea.

Regardless of what you do she wont love you any less lass xx * +

iilmadme 25.11.21 - 07:49am
As far as chipping in while she stayed with us,although we automatically said no,that she was a guest,while she was with us for a few months,she felt guilty.which is her default setting and dictates her every decision.it is ok for her to have contributed a little if she wanted to shop with me though,eventually when i started to struggle i started to let her help * +

ladibud 25.11.21 - 12:37pm

@ iilmadme - 24.11.21 - 03:54pm
She went through her savings a little bit,left her bankcard at home with my brother to run the house on,pay bills etc and used her savings to contribute around 30 quid a week to household stuff for us.also bought herself a lot of stuff she needed,new clothes etc because she walked out of home with not a lot... firstly,do you think i should try n repay her a bit of what she spent here?

Secondly,when she went back home she coincedentally recieved an inheritance which she always planned on sharing a bit with me n my brother.i cant see her any more because she's back there shielding with my bro but she has sent me her savings card n told me to take out my share.ive taken 300 quid out today to get our dog his tests done at the vets asap.my bf wants to repay her n so do i.should i have 'my' share of this thing or let her give it to my brother ultimately?

no I don't think you should... if you want to, put what you would pay her back in to a separate account for it she should ever need it. take the money she wants to give you as well... if you pay her back, she may not feel free to come to you next time she needs help, she may feel like she's sponging off you and that may make her not want to come to you for help again. *